How to Tell Someone You Have Herpes — Without Fear, Shame, or Panic.
Get Allie’s personal step-by-step conversation scripts to help you disclose confidently — no overthinking, no spiraling.
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If you’re newly diagnosed — or you’ve been carrying this secret for years — the idea of telling someone can feel terrifying.
Most people worry about:
“What if they reject me?”
“What if I say too much?”
“How do I even start the conversation?”
“What if they judge me?”
This guide gives you the exact words, timing, and emotional framing so you never have to guess or panic again.
MEET ALLIE — SOMEONE WHO TRULY GETS WHAT YOU’RE FEELING
I know how heavy this feels because I have lived through it, too — and I remember how terrifying and confusing those early days were.
I spent years learning how to heal my body, regulate my emotions, rebuild my confidence, and create a life that felt peaceful again. I don’t want it to take you that long though! It doesn’t have to.
I’ve now been outbreak-free for over six years, and I help people find clarity, strength, and emotional freedom through a proven, caring approach.
As a certified health and wellness coach, I guide you through the physical, emotional, and spiritual sides of healing without judgment or pressure.
My goal is simple: help you feel calm, confident, and whole again — no matter how overwhelmed you feel right now.
I CREATED THIS GUIDE TO GIVE YOU:
The proven script that my clients use to tell people about herpes when they are moving into a serious relationship
The simple and clear facts you need to confidently educate someone you are dating about herpes
The mindset shift for disclosure to feel empowering and calm instead of terrifying
This is the guide I wish I had when I started dating again after being told I had herpes..
IN “HOW TO TELL SOMEONE YOU HAVE HERPES” YOU’ll FIND:
Two word-for-word scripts (that you can customize of course!) including:
The emotional opener
Where to pause
What info to share
How to explain outbreaks
When and if to mention type 1 vs. type 2
How to check if they’re emotionally safe for you
There are two scripts because there are typically two scenarios could find yourself in:
Tested positive for herpes along with a physical outbreak
Learned through STD/STI bloodwork that you are Herpes Positive but you’ve never had an outbreak
FAQ — ANSWERS TO WHAT YOU MIGHT BE WONDERING ABOUT
Is this a private purchase?
Yes — completely. Your purchase is confidential. Only I will see the email you use to purchase it but you can choose whether or not to opt in to communication from me.
Is there medical advice included?
Nope. This is simply a comprehensive communication strategy for sharing with someone you tested positive for the herpes virus.
What if I don’t have actual outbreaks?
It will still be very helpful! I work with people who have outbreaks and people who do not. It can be confusing to know whether to disclose if you don’t have outbreaks, yet so many people feel it’s the right thing to do! So I’ve provided a way to share this that will put the other person at ease.
Is there anything else I should know?
Yes! My work is centered around helping people with herpes build meaningful relationships and find committed, loving partnership. If you’re currently exploring casual intimacy or aren’t sure what you want yet, you’re definitely still welcome here — just know my coaching approach is designed specifically for those seeking long-term partnership, or who want to feel ready to explore that possibility of finding love. If you feel like that’s not possible, know that it IS! And I’m here to help you shift your mindset.